How we met

Tim and I met online, through an online dating website called Christian Cafe. He emailed me first sharing his faith, and his future goals as well. I just read it through at that time thinking that I have so many things thinking and doing for my work, I thought I don't have time for such thing. After a few days, I decided to reply in his email since he doesn't sound to be having interest in dating (like most men you'll meet online do). I gave him also my cellphone number since I don't have much friend in New York anyway.

Few days after I emailed him back, he called up and the first time we talk, he said he felt we had a connection, but in my mind we don't. Later on he confessed that although he felt the connection, he had a hard time understanding me talking on the phone. He said he couldn't understand my words from my accent so he thought at that time, it isn't going to work for us. But despite of that, he still kept on calling me every day talking about how are day goes, what's going on and what we should pray for each other.

Anyway, on the night of my birthday, I just felt so lonely at that time even though I know God was with me despite being alone during that day. After church, I watched a movie alone and tried to let the day past. I thought it's only a birthday but in my heart, I'm expecting something from God, a gift maybe, something I would know is from Him. But during the day, nothing happened as I walked along Time Square. I don't know, but I know God knows my heart. When I came home, Tim called up and I don't know why, at that time our conversation was so clear and I felt connected for the first time with him. I've never felt so much peace since the time I came to New York until I talked with Tim that night. There's nothing magical in that conversation because we just basically talked about his desire also to be a missionary, his mom's passion in supporting missionaries, what he thinks about my culture as Asian, what I think about his culture, family cultures and etc. But after talking to him, I felt so light that I could talk with him almost about anything.

He continued to call me everyday, everynight and we realized after a few weeks talking, that we liked each other. I know that it sounds crazy that we just met online and our time of getting to know each other was so short, but for me it seemed so long.

I believe God works in creative ways to bring people together. We believe that's how God works in our case. Aside from everyday talking about our lives, our prayer time brought us closer to God as well. I would say that we started our relationship with prayer. We pray for each other, for each other's family, for the people surrounding us, for the Katrina victims, for the persecuted church around the world and etc. We got along so easily as we help and encourage each other to center our lives on God and make Him lead us in the relationship. When he formally asked me to be his boyfriend, that was one of the sweetest thing I heard. I was never asked that kind of question in a very respectful and honoring manner from any guy. The first time we saw each other in JFK, we couldn't get off our eyes from each other as I approach him in the baggage claim area. The moment our eyes fell on each other, we know we are meant for each other.